Archive for the ‘Habits’ Category

Notes from the Eye of the Transformational Tornado

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

In the past two months I’ve undergone a radical transformation of my belief system.

I have immersed myself deep into personal development. My schedule includes a weekly Master Mind meeting, weekly meetings at Agape Toastmasters, bi-weekly women’s support group at church, Healing School on Wednesday nights with Rev. Ahman and a weekly appearance on The Sheri and Erin Show.

I am the instructor of three college classes: Introduction to Addictive Behaviors, Stress Management for the Helping Professional and Helping and Listening Skills. On a personal level I follow the daily A Course in Miracles lessons and often read from The Bible, the Science of Mind textbook, Catherine Ponder books and Think and Grow Rich.

I am constantly surrounded by teachings about the mind.

This immersion has been beneficial in many ways. I have overcome many hardships and I’ve accomplished goals that I never dreamed possible. But there was one area I was not willing to touch. I tried desperately for most of my life to avoid the deepest emotional issues. I told myself it “didn’t matter” and it was “in the past.”

About 2 years ago, when I had my own personal business and financial crisis, it was obvious that I had no choice but to go deep if I wanted to reclaim my life.

Today I was sitting at a coffee shop and this is what I wrote. Perhaps you can relate:

“Somehow this feels like a big day even though technically “nothing” is happening. It’s 12:17 and the lunch crowd is gathering. I notice I’m afraid of dying rather than exhilarated to be alive. I begin to switch my course gracefully because it seems too drastic to do it suddenly. It seems I truly will die if I try – if only from the shock. My system is slowly adjusting to 2010, to being 44, to being responsible for my life. To growing up. I’m not sure where I was before. Sometimes 1967, other times 1986 or 1992. In the Hell of the past. Very rarely right here, right now.

I’m beginning to see the possibilities. This 2010 world has some pretty cool advantages.

An adventurer could truly seize these opportunities.

I could be an adventurer.

It is entirely up to me.

A few of the tools I’ve used in my journey to awakening include Holosynch, EFT and hypnosis. Did you get your free Create the Life You Want hypnosis MP3 yet? If not, click here.

Habits, Addictions and Hungry Ghosts on Blog Talk Radio

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

I am currently reading a new book titled In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate, MD. Mate is a physician to severely addicted clients in the Downtown Eastside section of Vancouver Canada at the Portland Hotel.

On March 25, I will have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Mate about addiction on The Sheri and Erin Show. Between now and then, I have to try and get clear on exactly what aspect of his work I want to know about most. I’m currently on page 328 of his his 416 page book and I’ve already read numerous things I’m interested in talking about with him. As a person who has struggled with addiction and worked with recovering addicts, I’m pleased to see that someone is bold enough to write holistically and compassionately about addiction. My hope is that this book gets talked about and utilized in treatment circles worldwide.

According to Mate’s book and the references he’s cited, addiction is very often tied to childhood abuse and neglect. When a young child experiences abuse or neglect during her developing years, it creates a lot of stress on her growing nervous system and has a profound effect on brain development. Chemicals that the body automatically produces when there is a strong mother/infant bond are very pleasurable; natures way of making sure the developing child gets the chemicals she needs to handle stress later in life. If those chemical reactions are absent in developing years, the child may grow into an adult who looks for this pleasure in other ways. According to brain research, the chemical reaction of opiates such as heroin is very similar to the chemical reaction of Oxytocin, a natural brain chemical that is released when the mother and child form a bond. This chemical is released as a result of bonding experiences such as loving eye contact, nurturing, encouragement and nursing.

Mate writes about how the “War on Drugs” has been a massive failure. Rather than providing treatment and solutions for those who suffer from addiction the “war” has turned addicts into criminals and made it more difficult from them to seek the help they need.

As a society, we have also adopted a moralistic, right/wrong view of addicts. Rather than see them as abused people, looking for relief from insurmountable emotional pain, we have chosen to see them as weak, flawed and immoral. Once again an attitude that makes treatment and recovery difficult to attain.

Mate believes that some addicts have experienced severe emotional pain and developmental deficits which have permanently impacted their brain chemistry. This makes it unreasonable to expect 100% abstinence for 100% of people who battle addictions. He believes in harm reduction, giving addicts safe ways to use drugs in a controlled environment for those who cannot or will not maintain complete abstinence.

Punishment and condemnation is counter-productive to true recovery. If addiction is significantly related to childhood abuse and neglect, the addict has endured more than his fair share of condemnation and punishment. No doubt, he has internalized this punishment and condemnation and carries it with him all day long. If punishment and condemnation worked, we never would have needed a War on Drugs.

So, there are a few of the points that Dr. Mate covers in his book. What do you think is most important for me to ask? What do you want to ask him? Do you have strong views for or against any of the points he’s made? Make a comment today and if we get it before Thursday, we’ll see if we can add it to our show.

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If you come across this blog after March 25, 2010, click on the player below to listen to an archive of the show.

If you’re interested in a fresh and holistic perspective of the many factors that contribute to addictive behavior, I highly recommend In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts – Close encounters with addiction by Gabor Mate, MD.

Make it a Habit to Feel Good – Abraham Hicks on YouTube

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010

The Law of Attraction is about more than just “thinking positive” or “focusing on what you want”. In order to get the full impact of the Law of Attraction, your emotional state or “vibrational tone” must be one of Joy, Appreciation, Love or Peace.

You can change your vibrational tone by focusing on thoughts, memories or stories that help you feel good. Perhaps watching this video will help.

If you want more, there is a great little video on Christopher Westra’s page at icreatereality.com While you’re there, I highly recommend that you sign up for his mailing list so you can get continual reminders and resources that will help you to create the life you want.

P.S. Speaking of creating the life you want, have you downloaded your Free Create the Life You Want hypnosis MP3? If not, you can get it here.

Make Drinking Water an Enjoyable Habit

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

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Galvanize Your Mind Now – Pilot on You Tube

Sunday, January 3rd, 2010

First there was a Flip Video camera, given to someone like me who loves gadgets, has an idea a minute and some time off for the holidays. Second there is the resulting video. In less than two minutes I will list seven things that Galvanize My Mind. When you galvanize your mind it becomes fun and easy to create new habits. Here’s my list for the past week:

1. Strolling the streets of Bluff Park with my iPod
2. Going to the farmer’s market
3. Snuggling with my cat
4. Working out on the bluff with Your Next Victory
5. Visualizing my ideal 2010 and beyond
6. Reading good Tweets
7. Watching Hello Ross on YouTube

This and more captured in my “not quite 2 minute” video. If you can’t see the video here, watch it on You Tube.

You’ll see me doing push-ups at the beach with a pink wig on and you’ll meet Fenix, my persian tabby cat. One of my favorite clips is “Boys on Bikes.” I was out strolling the sidewalks of Bluff Park in Long Beach with my Flip Video in hand and a group of about 10 young men on skateboards and bicycles rode by, it was pretty exciting. Some of us screamed in joy. Including me. It’s on video.

itunes_iconI practiced with using audio clips in the video. I sampled Galvanize by the Chemical Brothers, and Express Yourself By The Watts 103rd St. Rhythm Band. Songs like these and more can be found on the latest “Songs to Galvanize Your Mind” PDF. Free to all new blog subscribers today. Get it here.

At the end of this video I mention a Create the Life You Want free hypnosis MP3 download. You can get it at icreathabits.com

Dare to Galvanize Your Mind Today.

Don’t Worry, Be Happy Darn It!

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

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I have a ceramic sign outside my office that reads: “Worrying is like rocking in a chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”

There are many people who need a reminder like that – and I’m definitely one of them. As good as I am about laughing and letting go (and I get better every year, thanks to friends who remind me), my worst stress habit is worrying. It’s genetic; everyone in my family is a worrier. Sometimes I worry that I’m not living up to the family tradition if I’m not worrying about at least three things at time.

Thankfully, there’s a great statistic that has been very helpful in helping me worry less and enjoy life more.

60% of our worries never happen
20% have already happened
12% we have no control over

Imagine freeing up 92% of your time! As much as I may be predisposed to worrying, I’m also not a big fan of wasting time. Worrying about things that have already happened is definitely off my list. Things I have no control over, I can let those go too. Already I have 32% fewer worries. Now to work on the other 60%!

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Reprinted from “Don’t Get Mad, Get Funny Newsletter,” a free newsletter offering tips for lightening up work and life available at www.accidentalcomic.com. © 2008 Leigh Anne Jasheway-Bryant and The Comedy Workout.
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Brainwave CD Helps Listeners Decrease Stress, Increase Creativity

Monday, December 28th, 2009

Centerpointe Research has an audio program called Holosych that utilizes brainwave stimulation to help listeners decrease stress and increase creativity.

Holosynch stimulates the brain to help you achieve a state of mind similar to that of monks in deep meditation. It’s very effective in calming anxiety and expanding your mind beyond the limitations of the past.

Centerpointe Research will send you a free demo CD if you go to their website and request it. Holosynch has no harmful side-effects like those experienced with medication.

To find out more and to get your free CD, Click HERE.

My Yellow Lab is a Champ at Creating Habits

Monday, December 28th, 2009

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My yellow lab is a champ at creating habits. You know why? She pays really good attention and she has a great memory.

When she was a puppy, I used to give her a treat when she could yawn on command. Don’t ask me why, it’s just she was so cute and so smart it seemed like a fun game.

Well, I haven’t given her a treat for yawning for at least a year but still, she continues to do it.

When it comes to creating habits, humans aren’t much different than my yellow lab.

Sometimes a key event that happened in childhood triggers a response in the current day. This can happen even if you live in a new neighborhood, live with different people or work in a different state. You will feel and experience it as if it was 35 years ago.

Let me give you an example. Cindy got slapped across the face every time she was bold or brave or ‘out-of-control’. She was constantly told to “settle down.” On the other hand, she was praised, loved, adored and admired for taking care of other people. Which behaviors do you think Cindy will engage in as a result of this early training?

Chances are she will try to be ‘in control’, meek and shy and will only feel okay about herself when she is helping others. Cindy will do this even if it is self-destructive, because as a child she was paying close attention and the learning took place in a highly significant relationship. Also, since there was trauma associated with this experience, a part of her (even if it’s subconscious) never forgot.

Luckily, you can create new habits at anytime. Once you understand that the past can never be changed, you can use your energy to create a new tomorrow. That’s what my free MP3 download, Create The Life You Want is all about. It was a CD like this one that really helped me to begin turning my life around and I cherish it to this day.

To get your free download, simply enter your name and e-mail address below. If you can’t see the subscription box, go to http://icreatehabits.com to sign up.