Posts Tagged ‘positive self-talk’

Addiction: A Spiritual Perspective

Tuesday, July 7th, 2009

Drugs don’t make people powerless but powerless people become addicts. When you have no power you look to “things”/ways to get that power. If you can’t/don’t get it from yourself, you will try to get it elsewhere.

Whatever thing you “use” (drugs, food, shopping, sex, etc.) you will never get “enough.” You can use and use and use and you will never get power because “things” are not the power Source. In fact, you will lose power because you are giving it away to a false God. God/Infinite Intelligence is the Source.

You can never get enough of what you don’t want. If I want love but I look to food to fill me up, I cannot eat enough to get full. No amount of food will give me the love I want so I just eat and eat and eat but I never get full because food isn’t what I’m hungry for to begin with.

This is not about religion. Some people turn their power over to religion and religious leaders and get into the same troubles of any other powerless addict. This is about claiming YOUR power, the power you were born with. If you are compulsive with food, drugs, shopping or anything else you must stop looking outside yourself for the answer and stand in your power if you ever hope to be completely free.

From Sabotage to Success by Sheri Zampelli


For help overcoming self-sabotage, including addiction get the book From Sabotage to Success and stay tuned for the next From Sabotage to Success workshop series.


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When Affirmations Aren’t Working

Wednesday, June 10th, 2009

This week I taught a class titled “What You Say is What You Get” which is step two of the Six Steps From Sabotage to Success.

In my book From Sabotage to Success, I warn against using affirmations as a “fix” or “cover up” for what IS (see page 89 – Keeping Things Realistic and page 90 – Affirmations and Avoidance). Since publishing the book, I’ve spent more and more time doing personal and professional research and I can’t emphasize strongly enough that affirmations alone will not work if there is emotional blockage or if there are subconscious beliefs that negate the affirmation.

It is important in the process of using affirmations to be honest about what IS and not to use affirmations as a way to “will” or “force” things to change. In fact, sometimes using affirmations will bring up subconscious material that needs to be dealt with before you can move forward (see page 94 – Using Affirmations as a Learning Tool). If you insist on “only thinking positive” or if you use affirmations to deny what IS you actually delay your results.

It takes a tremendous amount of mental and physical activity to keep the uncomfortable, subconscious matter below the conscious level. However, when you are able to acknowledge that it exists and take the steps necessary to clear it, you can be freer as a result. In some cases, you can free yourself from negative patterns permanently simply by being willing to face them. Running away keeps the “boogey man” alive, turning around and facing him puts the power back in your hands, where it belongs.

What’s been your experience with affirmations? Have you used them but came to the conclusion that they “don’t work”? Were you mindful of your emotional response to the affirmations? Were you doing the affirmations with a sense of stress or urgency or did you feel good about it and go with the flow? All of these factors and more will determine the success you have when using affirmations.

From Sabotage to Success by Sheri Zampelli To learn more about using affirmations to overcome self-sabotage, purchase the book From Sabotage to Success.

Here are some affirmations to help you combat resistance:

“Growing and changing is exciting, even if I have to look at some painful things inside me in order to do it.”

“When one door closes, another door opens. I know I can become more of who I am.”

“I am willing to drop old concepts when they no longer work for me.”

“I am willing to honestly look at the way I do things and say, ‘I don’t want to do that anymore.’ I am willing to change.”

“I am free from the limitations of the past. I am free to go forward.”

“I am willing to release the pattern within me that is creating this condition.”

“I transform fear and anxiety into excitement and enthusiasm, I look forward to charting new ground.”

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Step Five From Sabotage to Success: To Thine Own Self Be True

Monday, May 25th, 2009

freedom_salvation_butterflyStep Five From Sabotage to Success is to Stop Settling and Start Living. Some of us have learned that who we really are is “not good enough” or that being true to ourselves is “selfish.” Others put their own need for approval over their personal needs as a way to “fit in.” Sometimes we get stuck in patterns and belief systems that are limited by or based on our past experience.

Breaking out of your comfort zone means being willing to see all possibilities, not just those that support your existing belief system. If you keep doing the same things over and over you will always get the same results.

Just for fun, try changing the things you “always” do and the things you “never” do. Sit in a new seat, eat at a new restaurant, order something you’ve never had before.

Try changing your perception. Imitate the beliefs of someone you admire and see what happens. The positive payoff for breaking out of your comfort zone is that you just might get the job you want or the relationship you want but regardless of the outcome you will probably experience a boost in your self-esteem from walking through fear and trying something new.

Here are some affirmations to help you feel comfortable with new changes:

“Growing and changing is exciting, even if I have to look at some painful things inside me in order to do it. I invite the opportunity to break free from my limiting past”

“All my changes are easy to make. When one door closes, another door opens. I know I can become more of who I am.”

“I am willing to drop old concepts when they no longer work for me. I am willing to honestly look at the way I do things and say, ‘I don’t want to do that anymore.’ I am willing to change.”

“I am free from the limitations of the past. I am free to go forward.”

“I now choose to believe it is becoming easier for me to make changes.”

“I am willing to release the pattern within me that is creating this condition.”

“I transform fear and anxiety into excitement and enthusiasm, I look forward to charting new ground.”

In the book, From Sabotage to Success and the workshop series by the same name, you will get the tools and support you need to break free from old, outmoded, limiting mindsets so you can truly learn how to Stop Settling and Start Living. For more information, read details below.

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From Sabotage to Success by Sheri ZampelliThese six steps are taken from the book From Sabotage to Success. If you’d like a more in-depth description of each step with details on what to do to apply the steps to your life, subscribe to this blog. I will post blogs about these six steps from now until May 31. If you live near Long Beach, CA, consider attending the six week workshop series with the same title. It begins on June 1.

Six Steps From Sabotage to Success
Everyday Zen Relaxation Studio
3740 Atlantic Blvd. Suite 201
Long Beach CA 90807
Monday nights June 1-July 6, 2009
6:30-8:30 p.m.
Cost – $60 for the entire series + $25 materials fee or $15 per week

Click here to download the color brochure for this workshop series

Space is limited.

Call 562-305-3434 to reserve a spot or pre-register for the entire series on-line today. Cost $60 for six weeks.


Step Two From Sabotage to Success: Self-Talk

Sunday, May 10th, 2009

Step two of the Six Steps From Sabotage to Success is: What You Say is What You Get.

Many of us sabotage ourselves out of fear and self-doubt that starts with a thought, idea or belief that we’ve picked up at some point in life. Most of the time this self-limiting thought or belief is not even true, but we believe it is because we’ve heard it or said it to ourselves many times.

beautifulcapableOne way to make changes in your thinking and eventually your self-defeating behavior, is repetition of new ideas. Affirmations are a positive start towards gearing up your mind to accept the new changes you want to make.

Below are some affirmations that can help you.

It requires repetition and reinforcement to make these new ideas a part of you. You can do this by writing your key affirmations on an index card and reading them every day, many times a day, by starting an affirmation journal or by listening to positive affirmation cassettes or CDs. Eventually the positives will sink in and you will see miracles happening in your life.

Affirmations to Combat Resistance:

“Growing and changing is exciting, even if I have to look at some painful things inside me in order to do it. When one door closes, another door opens. I know I can become more of who I am.”

“I am willing to drop old concepts when they no longer work for me. I am willing to honestly look at the way I do things and say, ‘I don’t want to do that anymore.’ I am willing to change.”

“I am free from the limitations of the past. I am free to go forward.”

“I am willing to release the pattern within me that is creating this condition.”

“I transform fear and anxiety into excitement and enthusiasm, I look forward to charting new ground.”

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From Sabotage to Success by Sheri ZampelliThese six steps are taken from the book From Sabotage to Success. If you’d like a more in-depth description of each step with details on what to do to apply the steps to your life, subscribe to this blog. I will post blogs about these six steps from now until May 31. If you live near Long Beach, CA, consider attending the six week workshop series with the same title. It begins on June 1.

Six Steps From Sabotage to Success
Everyday Zen Relaxation Studio
3740 Atlantic Blvd. Suite 201
Long Beach CA 90807
Monday nights June 1-July 6, 2009
6:30-8:30 p.m.
Cost – $60 for the entire series + $25 materials fee or $15 per week

Click here to download the color brochure for this workshop series

Space is limited.

Call 562-305-3434 to reserve a spot or pre-register for the entire series on-line today. Cost $60 for six weeks.